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When the betrayal is exposed

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Betrayal is not morally correct and most “respectable” individuals realise that they will never be able to openly admit to betraying a person who trusts them. Most companies and individuals will betray their customer or some one who trusts them only because they think that person will not be able to hit back or the betrayal will not be exposed, as this would affect their image as a honourable and trustworthy person.

Unfortunately they do not realise that it is difficult to “fool all the people all the time”. An experienced webmaster had spent large amounts of money with a web hosting company. This web hosting company relied on one particular internet company for verifying the identity of the customer in India. Though the webmaster was a very big customer of the internet company, they falsely introduced their girlfriend (a Kim Kardashian look alike) to the webhosting company as the experienced webmaster. Now this girlfriend had nothing to do with the webmaster, had in fact arlier betrayed the webmaster, by misusing her name behind her back.

So though the webmaster was working hard to earn and spend the money, all credit, introductions and privileges were given to the girlfriend, who was not spending a single penny. So all the contacts and introductions had been stolen, the webmaster found it difficult to get assistance from the web hosting company, and started complaining openly. Now the webhosting company was surprised, they wondered “Why is the person who they had showered privileges on was complaining openly?”.

After an investigation, they found the Indian internet company they had relied on had betrayed the real webmaster and customer, they had introduced their girlfriend as the webmaster, the real webmaster had got nothing at all, despite so many years experience and spending so much money. It exposed the betrayal by both the internet company as well as the girlfriend of the webmaster, the complete lack of values.

Rewarded for betrayal

The Indian internet industry has some outwardly “respectable people”, but actually they are heartless animals without humanity, decency or conscience, no sense of right or wrong.
They take money from one webmaster, but continuously lie to her, backstab her, worship the ground on which the backstabber walks.
Spread the most malicious rumours about the webmaster, a figment of their perverted imagination, with not a grain of truth, just out of jealousy and malice.

Every person she trusts is encouraged to backstab her.
The more vicious the betrayal, the greater the rewards for the backstabber.
The backstabber is considered a heroine, a role model because of her lies, showered with privileges for her doublecrossing nature, these are their warped values.

And then they complain, she is not friendly, does not tell anyone anything, does not trust anyone.
When every person who she trusts is encouraged to betray her in the most vicious manner possible.
If she even talks to any one, that person is encouraged or threatened to make false accusations against her, just to ruin an innocent person’s reputation.
With every betrayal, a part of the person who is betrayed dies forever.
It is the murder of the person’s trust and emotions, but in this case the murderer remains unpunished.
Instead Indian internet companies adore and worship the murderer of a person’s trust, betrayal is a virtue, the murderer a role model.

Building a relationship takes time and effort.
Is it not hypocrisy of the highest order, repeatedly betraying a trusting person, and then still expecting her to trust others?
Why will she continue to trust people, only to get hurt again?
How many betrayals is a person expected to experience in her life?

Jaadu Tona mindset of the “high tech” Indian internet industry

The internet industry in India may claim to be high tech but many companies lack scientific temper . If a sufficient number of blackmailers and extortionists gang up to make defamatory allegations of payment against an entrepreneur without any proof,they are automatically considered to be saints telling the truth. These blackmailers and extortionists do not have any kind of evidence or proof of payment,yet they have powerful backers to support their lies, and their statement is used to pass judgement on a person’s character and business. It is very easy to make allegations without proof against an entrepreneur, just to earn some easy money.

Similarly any one who claims to be involved in a business, is assumed to be telling the truth, without verifying the facts with the business owner. At a later date, it is proved that the liar has nothing to with the business, but instead of sacking the liar, the internet companies will continue to protect and promote the liar at the cost of the business owner, who is their loyal customer.

Science and technology relies on evidence and proof, but some Indian internet companies rely on gossip, speculation, similar to mindset of uneducated people believing in Jaadu Tona (black magic/superstition) many centuries ago. They protect and encourage these blackmailers and extortionists who make these blatantly false allegations against their customers without any proof, betraying the trust of their customers, who spend their hard earned money with them. Why is the internet sector in India so different from the engineering and finance sector, where no one can make an allegation/claim without any proof?

Rewarding betrayal

How do you deal with treachery?
Some companies will not hire such people, others will promote them, it is a reflection of the companies ethics and value systems.

We know a person so crooked that she will betray even her own trusting sister along with her crooked husband, and subject her to identity theft by claiming credit for work she does not do.

For this treacherous behavior she was rewarded with great power and responsibility. She now has powers of surveillance over her sister, monitors all activities ,can intercept emails, postal mails get diverted
She is also given control an army of micro-chipped humans who can make her sisters life miserable.

These are companies who promote those who betray their loyal customers, their unofficial motto is “we love frauds and liars”.

The after effects of betrayal

While betrayal is always an unpleasant experience,the effect of the betrayal on the betrayed person depends to a very great extent on the relationship with the person who has betrayed you. If it is a business deal, it is relatively easier to handle the betrayal as the loss is mainly financial.

Many times employees or people you hire for work betray you soon after you have paid them or entrusted them with an important assignment. One way to deter/prevent this kind of betrayal is by making these associates sign a non disclosure agreement. It also makes it difficult to trust people in future and hire new employees /contractors.

However, when it is a relative or a close friend who betrays you , it changes the outlook of the betrayed person towards life in general. The person whose trust has been betrayed becomes extremely cynical, and will find it difficult to trust or even become friendly with anyone for the rest of his or her life.

Does merit/experience matter?

A recent issue of Businessworld had an excellent article on how very few tech / internet companies receive angel funding in India, though they need it for their growth . What the people in the tech /internet industry fail to realise is that only when a tech /internet company is successful, can they fund / encourage smaller startups, but currently the conditions are extremely unfavorable.

In most industries an experienced person is valued and respected as they can teach younger people, who can avoid the mistakes they made. However, in some others, being young , good looking and /or having a powerful backer are the most important factors, merit does not matter much. The decision makers think that an experienced person can be forced to teach someone they approve for free, by harassing him/her and destroying their business. Unfortunately they do not realise that when a business turnover decreases, the biggest losers are their vendors, as there is less money available for buying new products and services.

Surveillance of a single woman entrepreneur

This is an open letter to those who have put a single lady under surveillance for the last 2 years or more, harassed her and extorted money.
She has worked very hard to save money for her retirement, do you dispute this?
Most of the powerful people who have harassed her will get a pension after they retire, as an entrepreneur, the only source of income in her old age are her savings.
Those who trouble her also are married, and have children who are likely to take care , help financially when retired.
The surveillance footage was not kept confidential, it was leaked to criminals.
The criminals have used the surveillance to steal her laptop and taken it to Delhi.
A detective agency is demanding several lakhs just as fees to trace the laptop with a 50-100% success rate.
She is a hardworking entrepreneur, unlike you, she has no powers to harass anyone and extort money.
Why do you misuse your powers to harass her, while remaining anonymous?
If your actions are justified, can you face her directly?

Dressing up / dressing well

People dress up/ dress well for different reasons such as:
1.they enjoy dressing up
2.If they have a spouse/boyfriend /girlfriend who they wish to impress.
3.company dress code if they are an employee of a company or attending a interview
4.To impress a customer, for a business owner meeting a customer or prospective customer.
5.For peer approval

A person being stalked or harassed for unknown reasons, survival/staying alive is a greater priority, so obviously he or she will not care about his/her appearance. One of the big advantages of dressing badly is that it gives a very good insight into the character of the person with whom one is dealing with. After all, everyone likes to be seen with a fashionable person. But without knowing the background of a person, it is incorrect to jump to conclusions about the knowledge and competence of the person, just based on his or her dressing style.

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Passing judgement

How do people judge a contestant in a Miss India or similar beauty contest?
By the way she looks, talks and carrys herself, it is after all a beauty contest.

How do the decision makers judge a lady in a tech industry where she does not need to interface or meet with any customer on a day to day basis?

The right answer: By speaking to her, understanding her knowledge of the technology, how it works, who handles the tech aspects

The obviously incorrect way : Put her under surveillance without her knowledge for years, have a few people stalk her and judge her solely on the way she looks, dresses and talks to non tech persons, without ever giving her a chance to defend herself directly. Nothing is ever done openly, because the people who do so do not have the guts to admit their harassment of a single lady.

 

Lack of humanity

A person considering an online career should be aware that many people and companies online are totally devoid of any humanity. Offline, if people see a single lady facing a problem, suffering,  at least some people go out of their way to help her, even if she is a total stranger.

Online , when powerful people see a single lady, who has spent a lot of her hard earned money with different internet companies(and also many years of her life), earning some money, they will put her under surveillance, will intercept her emails, delete files on her computer, try their level best to hack her computer and frame her for things she has never done.

Then they will expect her to “like” their girlfriends,wives and relatives ( who have not even spent Rs 10000 of their hard earned money on a website), teach them for free, form a company with them and make payments regularly to them. They will never have the courage to face her directly because their behaviour can never be justified publicly.